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Black men should not date white women. Yes, I said it. However I do think it's acceptable for black women to date white men. I know it's a little weird but let me explain my logic...At first I stopped there. The rest looked just as stupid. But I kept reading and was pretty, "...what the fuck ever" about it. He went on about how there are all kinds of different beautiful black women, especially at Howard, which is pretty fucking obvs: we have some of the prettiest people in the world here, I swear. He then went on to say this:
I understand that by being a black male in college I am already a statistical anomaly. I am not supposed to be here. That is why I will never date a white woman. I feel that it is my duty as one of the few upstanding black males to date within my race. There are too many great women for me to date inside the race. On the contrary, I do not feel that black women should be held to the same standard as black men in this particular situation. Let's be honest...black women are the [sic] light years ahead of the men in our communities. There are more black women in executive leadership roles than ever. However, for all their success there are very few black males who are on the same plane as them, so sometimes they resort to dating white men or other races. I understand. But for black men we have no excuse to date outside of the race."
I have no interest whatsoever in dating white men. I'm not racist, nor do I care about who other people chose to date or have babies with. But for me and my house, dating white may result in a fight.Okay, whatever...
The idea of being intimate with a descendant of the men who raped my female ancestors and made my male ancestors watch, just feels so disrespectful. If you refer to my "She Said" from a few weeks ago, I make my case for how I love, respect and chherish black men too much to even consider switching flavors.ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS? SERIOUSLY. JUST. I JUST. THAT'S THE DUMBEST SHIT I'VE HEARD SINCE YESTERDAY. I'm pretty fucking sure you can love black men and not necessarily be an insult to your people by falling in love with somebody who isn't black. Not to mention the fact that not all white people had anything to fucking do with owning slaves. They may have the benefits of white privilege but some guy who is a 2nd or 3rd generation American whose working class grandfather fucking immigrated from Ireland or Poland had nothing to do with some fucking slave masters in North Carolina. FFS. Also, why are we acting like there are no biracial people on this campus and wouldn't be insulted by this?
The last time I was approached by a white man, I was at the gym. I was on the treadmill, happened to look back and saw dude staring at my butt. He comes up five minutes later and offers me a trip to Miami. I say no, without even cracking a smile. He didn't even ask my name; just assumed that since I am a young black woman, I just couldn't say no to a "baller" who wants to spend...his money on me. Sorry, but I'm not the video girl who is impressed by your attmept to throw dollars at me and pour alcohol over my head. I can't be your BET fantasy."Dude sounds like a douchebag, but I'm sure you aren't the only chick he was trying to pick up that say to be his BET fantasy.
However, when one does decide to date outside of his or her race, I hope it's because he or she genuinely likes that person and not because that person fulfills some twisted racial ideals.Well no fucking shit. Maybe I'm ignorant but I didn't think you wake up one morning and decide to start dating somebody who ain't brown and beautiful. I'm not saying that there are no thoughts of race if you end up dating somebody of a different race but she makes it sound so fucking dramatic.
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Monday's Hilltop featured an editorial titled "Vulnerability Leads to Unfortunate Events". Overall, I agreed with many of the points, especially the question of, "Why anyone on Howard's campus think it is okay to walk alone after nightfall?" Most would agree that a city like Washington D.C. is hardly prized for its safety. However, I was rubbed the wrong way to the core by the notion that women essentially "ask for" sexual harassment due to their choice in clothing. The editorial stated, "…female students are often guilty of another serious offense--strutting through the streets of Washington, D.C. in badly chosen attire. Your skintight mini-dress, complete with flashy make-up and four inch club [heels] are not appropriate for a midnight walk to Meridian from the club shuttle outside the Quad...If walking through the streets in seductive club attire isn't a blatant call for sexual harassment, then nothing is." This statement is oozing with victim blaming, and strengthens the "she asked for it" mentality. The mindset is … a woman who gets raped walking down the street wearing a skirt at mid-thigh is asking for it. I find this attitude deeply disturbing, especially when subscribed to by women.My mom helped edit this a bit. She would have taken way longer and been more nitpicky if I wasn't trying to get this in by 6. She can be a hell of an editor. She says she wants to edit my first book, lolz. My dad liked it too. Anyway, hope it gets in the paper unlike the LAST TIME I tried to submit something.
Disregarding the feminist/womanist elements of this debate, I believe the belief that attire is a “blatant call for sexual harassment” is fundamentally flawed to begin with. Coming to D.C. from Los Angeles, I quickly realized how different the dynamics of the two cities were, especially regarding comments made from men on the street. Never before had I been harassed as much as I was when I arrived in D.C.: where men have approached me on the sidewalk, asked for my number, called me names, talked about parts of my body, and continued to pursue me even after I lied and said I had a boyfriend. Moreover, if their comments were ignored, insults were suddenly hurled at me like a flip of a switch with outstanding amounts of passive aggression. Just yesterday morning as I walked from CVS to my dorm, a man driving on Georgia Avenue not only honked at me when I crossed the street, but proceeded to yell crude, sexually charged statements at me as the light turned green: his head was literally hanging out the window as he drove on, continuing his remarks. My attire: jeans, a shirt, a jacket, and a heavy scarf. No mini-skirt, no flashy four inch heels. A few weeks ago I was a straight ally at the Equality March, and as I waited at the metro station for my train, a group of teenage boys approached me. Not only were they demanding I give them their number, but they even tugged on my necklace to "compliment" it and the ring leader of the group said, quite frankly, unabashed: "My friend wants to stick it in you". My attire: jeans, a dress, and a sweater. No bare legs, no skin tight ensemble. Modest clothing does not prevent sexual harassment.
Did I ask for my treatment during these two recent examples of sexual harassment? No, and neither does a woman who happens to enjoy wearing a dress of a length that doesn't hark back to the conservative fashion of the 1930s. Why are we blaming ourselves for the crude, inappropriate treatment we receive from strangers on the street? Why aren’t we, instead, asking why some men continue to think that sexual harassment is acceptable? No woman ever makes themselves a “target” to be sexually demeaned due to the length of their dress or the height of their shoes. I refuse to feel shamed for enjoying skirts and dresses with hems above the knee, and I refuse to blame myself for the inappropriate behavior of men thinking with their private parts. It is simply pathetic that despite all the strides we’ve made as women, self-blame continues to be acceptable.
In conclusion, men are not entitled to a woman’s body, and the idea that unless a woman is preventing herself from sexual harassment, men can’t be blamed for their actions is preposterous. “Vulnerability Leads to Unfortunate Events” simply emphasizes how much further we must go—as women and as a society as a whole—to end the stigma put upon women who are victims of sexual harassment.
Ashley Reese
Sophomore Print Journalism Major
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okay“Maude: I like to watch things grow. They grow and bloom and fade and die and change into something else. Ah, life!
I should like to change into a sunflower most of all. They're so tall and simple. What flower do you like to be?
Harold: I dunno. One of these maybe.
Maude: Why do you say that?
Harold: Because they're all alike.
Maude: Oh but they're not! Look, see, some are smaller, some are fatter...some...some grow to the left, some to the right. Some even have lost some petals. All kinds of observable differences! You see, Harold, I feel that much of the world's sorrow comes from people who are this...yet...allow themselves to be treated as that.”
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grace_istheword's high school. It'll be the first legit high school football game I've ever been to. Yeah, I had a special high school. We finally got flag football in senior year. Major lulz, that.
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madmenfootnotes again because it just rocks.sf_drama, jsyk.
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ontdmadmen for the lulz. I took so many gifs from there:
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